What is self mastery? The Agile coaching growth wheel describes it as “Self-mastery practices are the need to invest in yourself through reflection, learning, and taking care of your wellbeing. Self-mastery starts with you having your own emotionally intelligent relationship with yourself and others. You understand how Emotional Intelligence supports Relationship Intelligence, Social Intelligence, and the systems that you interact with.” how do you start an emotional intelligent relationship with yourself? Roche Martin describes a key component of that as the self awareness to recognise and understand your own character, moods and emotions and their effect on others.
As part of the self mastery activities I developed for an Agile coach training programme I started with Awareness of self, using Management 3.0’s Niko calendar and tweaking it for the individual to track their emotions.
Then as part of the reflection, grouping the thoughts they had during the day as either good (empowering) or bad (disempowering)
This created the first part of self awareness, being able to recognise your moods and emotions.
The next step was to understand and regulate the moods and emotions.
To help with this, we used the following activities.
- Identify your saboteurs. Link here
- Identify your empowering beliefs and come aware of when you have supported this belief in your actions. Create a success file.
- Identify your disempowering beliefs and work through changing the negative to positive and finding evidence that supports the positives and negates the negative.
By bringing awareness, creating visibility, you can do something about it. It works with the work in teams and it works with ourselves. Become aware, pick something small to work on, make some changes, see what happened and start again.
